Ahh Authenticity (great post Dr Mani!), what we all want from our interactions with others. What people so rarely deliver.
I have a half written blog post sitting in draft about my "Authenticity Detector". I bet everyone has an inbuilt detector that on meeting someone flags "FAKE" when a personality that is just "not right" comes along.
I would think it would be easier in real life as the body language signals are delivered with the verbal communication. Some personalities are just "too perfect" or speak from high horses, and do not interact in a way that I find trustworthy.
In the text world of the internet (or now increasingly in video) these people are still able to be detected. The trick is I find, is to determine "do they have something to teach me", if yes look beyond the fakery (but can you really trust someone who cannot even be themselves?). If no, move on, there are plenty of real, authentic and pleasant people on the internet to learn from.
In looking at what annoys you in others you are able to determine what not to be.
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